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Have you ever wanted to be a Wanna Be?

Have you ever wanted to be a Wanna Be?

I had always wanted to be a Wanna Be. It's like that ideal we all aspire to reach, right? Having that group of friends, those model parents, that perfect house, living in that magical place... in short, everything we long for deep within our being. The Wanna Be's, where superficiality reigns and we avoid speaking from the heart, where we resist touching on deep topics to avoid discomfort. It all boils down to meaningless conversations about the weather because sometimes we struggle to recognize what our spirit truly needs.

I grew up in a small town, and let me tell you with certainty, small towns are the same everywhere in the world. No matter what town it is, they share similar characteristics. Everyone knows each other or at least has heard of each other. We all attend the same schools, visit the same shops... Why? Because we are human, we just speak different languages.

My childhood was spent in a small town in the state of Jalisco. Here, birria and tejuino are delights, weekends are spent among "vampiros," strolls along the boardwalk, and Sundays; mass and gatherings with family and friends. Here, union and friendship are celebrated.

But there are also rules and prejudices. They tell us how to laugh, how to talk, how to behave. They teach us that women cannot be friends with men, where if you don't have a life, they create one for you, among other absurd rules. That's how society works in a small town.

Television sells us the idea that we can follow our dreams, that we can be Cinderella and find our prince. I immersed myself in those stories, who wouldn't? I saw people from my town, schoolmates, girls and boys, and I wished to be part of their circle, to be one of them. I wanted to be part of the elite, I wanted the guy from the corner to notice me, I wanted to have my neighbor's talent. I wanted to be the brilliant student and get straight A's in everything, but reality was different. I got B's, the guy from the corner didn't even look at me, and my talent didn't shine like my neighbor's.

I spent years trying to fit in. I had my own friends, my tribe, my close circle. But still, I wanted more. I wanted to meet more people, to experience different aspects of life, like they did. It's not that I lacked friends, but I longed for something more. I wanted to be part of the elite, go to all the parties, be the coolest. But every time I tried, I felt out of place. Why? Because I simply didn't fit into that mold. Despite everything, I was still determined to be part of the Wanna Be's.

I think we all go through that phase at some point in our lives, and if you haven't experienced it yet, don't worry, it will come to you sooner or later. And when you face the reality that you don't fit into that mold, it's normal to question and say, "But still, why can't I be part of the elite? Why can't I be a Wanna Be?" At the end of the day, what's important is to understand that true wealth lies in being authentic and finding your own place in the world, far from expectations and stereotypes.

I spent years searching for where I belonged, where I could be a part. I felt bad because I thought it was wrong, because I didn't fit in. That's when I started questioning my senses, my tranquility, because I felt like I was forcing myself to fit in. I plunged into a sea of doubts and self-imposed demands, trying to fit into a mold that simply wasn't mine. It was a period of confusion and anguish, where I lost sight of my true essence in the desire to belong to something that didn't complete me. But over time, I understood that true beauty lies in being oneself, in embracing our peculiarities and differences.

I understood that I had to love myself and the rest would come. I understood that I didn't have to fit in anywhere and that the Wanna Be's were humans just like me, who also had some self-doubt. Accepting myself as I am, with all my imperfections, was the first step towards true personal fulfillment. And although the path to self-acceptance can be difficult and full of obstacles, each step in that direction is an act of love towards myself.

At the end of the day, what matters is not fitting into a prefabricated mold, but finding fulfillment in authenticity and self-acceptance. It's understanding that happiness is not found in being part of an exclusive group or in meeting external expectations, but in loving oneself and living an authentic life, free from the chains of conformity. That's the true essence of life: being true to oneself and finding happiness in one's own skin.

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